About

I’m a mom, a writer, a builder, and a woman who learned the hard way that burnout is not a badge of honor.

The Mellow Mami exists because my real life demanded it. Not because I wanted to build a brand, but because I needed a place where honesty could breathe. Motherhood cracked me open in ways I did not expect. It softened me, humbled me, and forced me to slow down when everything in the world was telling me to speed up.

This space is the result of choosing presence over pressure. Calm over chaos. Real life over curated perfection.

I’m raising a daughter while actively reparenting myself. That means I talk about boundaries, nervous system care, healing patterns, and unlearning the idea that rest must be earned. It also means I am honest about the mess. The growth spurts. The days when I get it right and the days when I absolutely do not.

The Mellow Mami is not aspirational in the glossy sense. It is aspirational in the grounded sense. As in, how do we build a life that actually feels good to live inside?

Motherhood, but the real version

I’m a girl mom. The kind who thinks deeply about what I’m modeling, not just what I’m saying. Motherhood changed everything for me. It slowed me down in a world obsessed with productivity. It made me care less about external validation and more about emotional safety.

Here, I talk about raising a human with intention. About gentle parenting, regulation, patience, repair, and the very real exhaustion that comes with trying to do better than what you were handed. I talk about loving your child fiercely while still being honest about how hard this role can be.

There is no performative motherhood here. No pretending it is all magical. No pretending it is all trauma either. Just honesty, love, and a lot of learning in real time.

Cannabis, consciously

Yes, cannabis is part of my life. And no, it is not a personality trait.

I talk about cannabis the way I talk about most things. With intention, boundaries, and respect. Not as an escape, not as a joke, and definitely not as a party trick. For me, cannabis lives alongside journaling, reflection, rest, and ritual. It is about slowing down, not checking out.

The way I approach cannabis mirrors how I approach life. Quietly. Thoughtfully. On purpose.

If that resonates, you will feel at home here.

Mind, mood, and healing out loud

I am neurodivergent. I live with ADHD. I care deeply about mental health, emotional regulation, and understanding how our nervous systems actually work.

Healing is not linear. Growth is not always pretty. Sometimes it looks like progress and sometimes it looks like sitting with discomfort long enough to understand it. In this space, I talk about inner work without shame and without toxic positivity.

I share what I am learning about compassion, honesty, emotional safety, and slowing down the inner critic. Not because I have it figured out, but because I am committed to staying present while I figure it out.

This is a place for people who are tired of being hard on themselves. People who want to do better without hating themselves into submission.

Home as sanctuary

I believe the way we design our spaces matters. Not for aesthetics alone, but for how they make us feel.

I care about creating a home that feels safe, soft, and grounding. A place that supports rest instead of demanding performance. You will find conversations here about home decor, intentional living, creating cozy corners, and designing a life that feels supportive instead of overwhelming.

Your home should feel like a place where you can exhale.

Blunt talk and honest living

I am loving, but I am also direct. I believe honesty can be kind and boundaries can be warm. I do not sugarcoat things, but I also do not tear people down.

This space is for real conversations. The kind you have with someone who loves you enough to tell the truth and hold your hand at the same time.

You will find humor here. You will find softness here. You will also find moments where I say the thing people usually avoid saying out loud.

If you are looking for curated perfection, this is not that place.
If you are looking for honesty, warmth, and grounded living, welcome.

Why The Mellow Mami exists

This site is my journal, my living room, and my deep breath all rolled into one.

It is a place to talk about motherhood without filters.
To talk about wellness without judgment.
To talk about cannabis without gimmicks.
To talk about healing without pretending it is easy.
To talk about life without trying to package it into something palatable.

I am not here to be an expert. I am here to be present.
I am not here to perform. I am here to live honestly.
I am not here to rush. I am here to build slowly.

If you are someone who is choosing a softer life in a loud world, you belong here.

Pull up a chair.
Stay awhile.
We are doing this intentionally.